Good morning. Kids’ specialist, Tetchan coach.
Today is “evil of punishment”.
When people act, I always tell you that there is extrinsic motivation and intrinsic motivation.
It is “endogenous motivation” to decide by yourself and act on your own.
The motivation is curiosity, interest, curiosity, etc.
On the other hand, it is “extrinsic motivation” to be ordered by others to act.
The chance is evaluation, compulsion, prize punishment, etc.
It is probably the most extrinsic motivation to encourage action by giving punishment.
As a disadvantage of this, such a thing can be cited.
- There is a hierarchical relationship between the side giving punishment and the side given. (The coach is not a bigger translation than the child)
- Fear makes it impossible to demonstrate autonomy and independence.
- There is a possibility that interpersonal relationships will be misunderstood as building with power and strength.
- Negative words are used.
In the first place, coaching (education) is what makes children think positive about themselves.
And, we need to nurture “self-affirmation” to value ourselves.
Nevertheless, if you use only negative words, you will develop a negative self-image.
Among the punishments, corporal punishment will be quite satisfactory.
However, myself became emotional and sometimes my hands and legs came out without controlling my mind.
I am painfully feeling that I must reflect my own immature heart.
May the day become a day you notice and learn from today.
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